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“I am capable of making more things with my body than children.“ and “to most men, your work will be an expression of the female experience instead of the human one.“ BAAAAANGEERRRRRRRRRR BANGER !!!!!! so apt

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Thanks for writing this piece, this is super interesting. I’m curious to hear more thoughts on how, or whether, the way we choose to engage in should be gendered at all. I ask because when I read the quote “Every woman artist will have the realization: to most men, your work will be an expression of the female experience instead of the human one.”, I feel there is a delicate balance between intrusion/presumption of understanding and appreciation/analysis.

As an example, take a book I recently read, I Who Have Never Known Men. In much online discourse, it is represented as a feminist work, but I’m not sure that’s all there is to it. Yes, the fact that they are all women, and the fact that they do not interact with men, functions as a necessary conduit to the greater existential philosophical *point* to grapple with. But if the pain that opens up that conduit is unique to the female experience, can a male reader really *get* it? Another example, that I’ve been obsessed with recently, is Samia’s latest album. Yes, the conditions which led her to the ideas she explores on the album are more likely to be intimately felt, viscerally recognized, by someone who grew up a woman in our society. But, that doesn’t mean that the questions it raises about identity are not universal.

On a more personal note- When I felt that certain instances of “for the online thought daughters media 101” (term used with nothing but love), like Ladybird and The Bell Jar, really resonated with me, it actually made me self-reflect really deeply about gender identity. It sounds silly, but I guess that’s how indelibly embedded our ideas of gender are in media consumption. If I, a man, read these moving, vulnerable thoughts on the human condition, thoughts that stem from pain specific to a woman’s experience, does that say more about me or about the art? If the pain-to-insight transmutation pipeline is so often eloquently expressed by those who occupy less-privileged positions in society, what is the best way to engage with the art as a universal, while simultaneously honoring the intimate and specific origins, that the reader may not share? I know it’s often used in jest, but I genuinely feel compelled, on some level, to respect the sentiment of “<X piece of media> is for the girls”! Spaces to communicate honestly with others of the same lived experience are integral, and should be protected! But also, I think ultimately I don’t want engaging with media to be pointlessly, or excessively, gendered!

Sorry for rambling! I’ve just thought about this a lot re: the art I like. Super excited for your upcoming album!

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