“To be female still means being trapped within the purely psychological. No matter how dispassionate or large a vision of the world a woman formulates, whenever it includes her own experience and emotion, the telescope’s turned back on her. Because emotion’s just so terrifying the world refuses to believe that it can be pursued as discipline, as form.”
— I Love Dick (1998), Chris Kraus
Last year, my record was reviewed by a male music journalist who panned it on the basis that “relentless guts-spilling isn’t necessarily any more creatively worthy or valuable than simply making stuff up.” Earlier in the review, the male critic characterized Joni Mitchell’s legacy as one that encouraged young women artists (the word he used here was artists, but all the artists listed were women) to enter into a competition “to see how much brutal diary-entry detail can be squeezed into one song.”
The male critic argued that, for women (let’s do away with the facade of pretending we’re just talking about “artists” here), detailing one’s own “annus horribilis” has “clear commercial advantages.” The male critic notes that, under a more charitable interpretation, “such bold truth-telling offers catharsis, communion and comfort.” The best women artists can hope for, apparently, is to be a warm blanket for other similarly disturbed girls to crawl beneath. In Chris Kraus’ words, “as if the only possible reason for a woman to publicly reveal herself could be self-therapeutic.”
My art has often been called vulnerable, diaristic, and raw. When this happens, I wonder how critics assume I go about making my work. In the midst of mix-editing my second record, I am struck by just how much time one must spend with each individual song. You must listen hundreds of times in hundreds of ways — and that is after listening hundreds of times in hundreds of ways while creating it. It would be impossible to send a tear-stained journal entry straight through production without scrutiny, never mind the fact that art-making, for me, is not something I would describe as a “therapeutic” process. It is work and it behaves like work. I am detail-oriented and incredibly specific in my vision. The music is not my baby, because I am critical of it in a way I would never subject a living being to. I am capable of making more things with my body than children.
“Why is female vulnerability still only acceptable when it’s neuroticized and personal; when it feeds back on itself? Why do people still not get it when we handle vulnerability like philosophy, with some remove?”
— I Love Dick (1998), Chris Kraus
The male critic notes that not everything about my record is so maudlin: “Elsewhere she has a knack for framing the sore stuff in more interesting ways, using shifting viewpoints, irony and humor.” He respects the work more when there is an obvious distance between myself and the emotion, and perhaps it is difficult for him to reconcile how one could remain both deeply feeling and deeply critical — interested in and capable of transmuting not only emotional but philosophical truth.
Towards the end of the book, Kraus quotes artist Hannah Wilke: “If women have failed to make “universal” art because we’re trapped within the personal, why not universalize the “personal” and make it the subject of our art?” I’d like to believe men are smarter than they’re behaving these days, when they talk about art made by women (I have a particular revulsion to the term “women’s art” as of late — Kraus wonders “why every act that narrated female lived experience in the 70’s has been read only as “collaborative” and “feminist.” The Zurich Dadaists worked together too but they were geniuses and they had names”).
Is it really so that the pain of women stops men in their tracks so entirely, such that they neglect to investigate how and why the pain has been chosen to be expressed?The presence of a woman’s pain seems to dull every other attempt at communication — no matter if the pain is a vehicle to understand beauty or love or more fundamental questions about existence. For women, the pain is the pain is the pain. And, of course, this is somewhat the point. How dangerous would it be to believe that women are capable of transmuting their pain, transforming it, to represent something beyond that which is simply done to us.
Every woman artist will have the realization: to most men, your work will be an expression of the female experience instead of the human one.
“Whenever someone makes a breakthrough into honesty, that means not just self-knowledge but knowledge of what others can’t see. To be honest in a real absolute way is to be almost prophetic, to upset the applecart.”
— I Love Dick (1998), Chris Kraus (quoting David Rattray)
As though the safety of women throughout history has not depended on our ability to keep some secrets to ourselves. As though we have not been trained how to behave and in front of whom, as though our very lives do not depend on this ability. As though we cannot exist both within and without the emotional world, enough to feel and translate it effectively, simultaneously.
Thankfully, I’ve never found it terribly difficult to produce my work independent of how men might perceive or fail to perceive it. I know that they would never understand what happens in those spaces where women talk amongst each other, those spaces where pain functions as a doorway, where experience is expansive. They may believe that we’ve locked ourselves away to wallow together, offering comfort and delusions to patch over the pain. But we know that the pain is the point — it is the meeting of feeling and interpretation that cracks open every other thing. And, unlike them, we are not afraid to understand it.
“I am capable of making more things with my body than children.“ and “to most men, your work will be an expression of the female experience instead of the human one.“ BAAAAANGEERRRRRRRRRR BANGER !!!!!! so apt
Thanks for writing this piece, this is super interesting. I’m curious to hear more thoughts on how, or whether, the way we choose to engage in should be gendered at all. I ask because when I read the quote “Every woman artist will have the realization: to most men, your work will be an expression of the female experience instead of the human one.”, I feel there is a delicate balance between intrusion/presumption of understanding and appreciation/analysis.
As an example, take a book I recently read, I Who Have Never Known Men. In much online discourse, it is represented as a feminist work, but I’m not sure that’s all there is to it. Yes, the fact that they are all women, and the fact that they do not interact with men, functions as a necessary conduit to the greater existential philosophical *point* to grapple with. But if the pain that opens up that conduit is unique to the female experience, can a male reader really *get* it? Another example, that I’ve been obsessed with recently, is Samia’s latest album. Yes, the conditions which led her to the ideas she explores on the album are more likely to be intimately felt, viscerally recognized, by someone who grew up a woman in our society. But, that doesn’t mean that the questions it raises about identity are not universal.
On a more personal note- When I felt that certain instances of “for the online thought daughters media 101” (term used with nothing but love), like Ladybird and The Bell Jar, really resonated with me, it actually made me self-reflect really deeply about gender identity. It sounds silly, but I guess that’s how indelibly embedded our ideas of gender are in media consumption. If I, a man, read these moving, vulnerable thoughts on the human condition, thoughts that stem from pain specific to a woman’s experience, does that say more about me or about the art? If the pain-to-insight transmutation pipeline is so often eloquently expressed by those who occupy less-privileged positions in society, what is the best way to engage with the art as a universal, while simultaneously honoring the intimate and specific origins, that the reader may not share? I know it’s often used in jest, but I genuinely feel compelled, on some level, to respect the sentiment of “<X piece of media> is for the girls”! Spaces to communicate honestly with others of the same lived experience are integral, and should be protected! But also, I think ultimately I don’t want engaging with media to be pointlessly, or excessively, gendered!
Sorry for rambling! I’ve just thought about this a lot re: the art I like. Super excited for your upcoming album!