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dagwood crabtree's avatar

"Change as danger is programming that once kept me safe."

Reminded me of the poem, One Source of Bad Information by Robert Bly. It reads:

There’s a boy in you about three

years old who hasn’t learned a thing for thirty

Thousand years. Sometime it’s a girl.

This child had to make up its mind

How to save you from death. He said things like:

``Stay home. Avoid elevators. Eat only elk.’’

You live with this child, but you don’t know it.

You’re in the office, yes, but live with this boy

At night. He’s uninformed, but he does want

To save your life. And he has. Because of this boy

You survived a lot. He’s got six big ideas.

Five don’t work. Right now he’s repeating them to you.

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maja roglić's avatar

"Most of the things I do to hurt myself involve recreating the sharp pain of my childhood to avoid the dull pain of my adulthood." ouch. yep. my mom dealt with psychosis and bipolar when i was a kid. just now starting to realize how it's affected me.

thank you for sharing <3

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Leanne de Souza's avatar

Searingly truthful line of prose, thank you Eliza.

"Most of the things I do to hurt myself involve recreating the sharp pain of my childhood to avoid the dull pain of my adulthood."

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Yagana Samim's avatar

Evocative 💗

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ella's avatar

utterly beautiful thank you for sharing

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Georgie's avatar

Thank you for sharing this! ❤️

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Oatmilk Allison's avatar

I love how the phrasing sometimes expresses that more often then not there is joy.

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Emily Scott's avatar

Needed this, thanks Eliza

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Caroline Beuley's avatar

Gorgeous Eliza

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Mick's avatar

book i just read had a chapter about joni & little green: abandoners, on mothers & monthers. great for women in translation month for reading :) & this is a lovely piece too

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Roberta's avatar

wow... I stumbled upon this piece from a re-stack and I'm so glad I did. So tender and touching. Beautiful writing <3

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Musings Mode's avatar

Beautiful 🤍

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Vic's avatar

This brought tears to my eyes

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holly randell's avatar

gorgeously written, as always <3

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