Thank you for talking about your journey with your body. I appreciate your hesitation. Every human in the west has been so shamed for just having a body. But I believe we have to talk about our bodies and that you are a good person to talk about it. This was a great nuanced start. But what can I say I am a bitch who loves nuance. I appreciate you.
I’ve already restacked so much of this article that I feel like a broke record. This whole article is truly like looking in a mirror and I hope to be able to implement some of the mindset changes you seem to like! A great new year of growth to everyone!
this entire piece resonated so much! i am now 5 years out from facing my eating disorder and feeling like i may be ready to implement a new way of structure in my eating/movement practice and completely understand (i think) your perspective on the shift you made and it makes me happy that it is actually possible. I love what you said abut taking the path of the most resistance when it comes to doing the "hard thing" of walking somewhere instead of driving or generally doing something in a way that requires your full attention that your brain resists when you could instead just rot and scroll instead. I'm marinating in this whole piece and I know I will come back and read it again. Thank you!
This post is so well-written. Also, I thought that these lines were super interesting and would love to read more, if you ever feel like writing about it!
"I am learning that, as a woman, it’s difficult to talk about your body as though it only belongs to you. I feel, somehow, responsible to all women when I talk about my body. I want to write about this more, but I’m afraid to."
I always saw it as a failure of mine to want my body to be different because I thought that meant I wasn’t loving myself enough. But you bring up a really great point that nourishing your body and keeping yourself fit is loving your body too. You can’t just say it, you have to prove it in your actions 💕
loved this article so much almost wrote love you so much but that was super creepy parasocial comment... anyways, your words always seem to find me when i need them the most. year of letting people know when their work is good?
Just read this quote in “Why Be Happy When You Can Be Normal?” By Jeanette Winterson that reminded me of this article: “I have noticed that doing the sensible thing is only a good idea when the decision is quite small. For the life-changing things, you must risk it.” The whole book is fantastic so far, as someone who takes you book recs often, I think you’d like it a lot Eliza!
Woah! This is everything! Would love to see you dive more into your relationship with your body and that balance of nourishment vs. control. The internet is a scary place, but even from reading this, I think there are people who are here for you and would get your message!
"It pays, in my opinion, to be fully insane in a big way, and relatively measured and calm in all your smaller rituals." This is such an amazing insight—definitely something I'm going to be thinking about for a while.
Eliza, your words hit home for me in a way that feels almost too close for comfort. That rhythm of chaos and calm, the relentless cycles of falling and rising again—it’s the essence of living authentically. I’ve felt that same vulnerability, especially recently, as I wrote an article about my own story—a piece so raw and true that I haven’t found the courage to publish it yet.
What I did publish was Madiba’s Mountain on The Burn Blog, where I reflected on how to build out the year ahead, drawing from the lessons my late dog taught me about resilience and love. Like your skating metaphor, Madiba reminded me that progress isn’t a straight climb; it’s a series of loops and turns, each one bringing us closer to the essence of who we are.
Your bravery in sharing your cycles of striving, slipping, and returning stronger resonates deeply. It reminds me that vulnerability isn’t a weakness—it’s a bridge to connection. Publishing the truth, whether about ourselves or our journeys, isn’t just about being seen; it’s about giving others permission to embrace their own imperfections. Keep skating forward, Eliza. Burn on—we’re all better for it.
#1 and #4 remind me a lot of "it's better to admit you walked through the wrong door than spend your whole life in the wrong room"
sorry this phrase just changed my life ?? will be thinking about this for three days straight thank you
Honestly it changed my life too when I heard it!
Thank you for talking about your journey with your body. I appreciate your hesitation. Every human in the west has been so shamed for just having a body. But I believe we have to talk about our bodies and that you are a good person to talk about it. This was a great nuanced start. But what can I say I am a bitch who loves nuance. I appreciate you.
I’ve already restacked so much of this article that I feel like a broke record. This whole article is truly like looking in a mirror and I hope to be able to implement some of the mindset changes you seem to like! A great new year of growth to everyone!
bad bitches love to reference Sisyphus
a changed mindset would cure me
this entire piece resonated so much! i am now 5 years out from facing my eating disorder and feeling like i may be ready to implement a new way of structure in my eating/movement practice and completely understand (i think) your perspective on the shift you made and it makes me happy that it is actually possible. I love what you said abut taking the path of the most resistance when it comes to doing the "hard thing" of walking somewhere instead of driving or generally doing something in a way that requires your full attention that your brain resists when you could instead just rot and scroll instead. I'm marinating in this whole piece and I know I will come back and read it again. Thank you!
enjoying when i’m wrong… could be huge 🪨
This post is so well-written. Also, I thought that these lines were super interesting and would love to read more, if you ever feel like writing about it!
"I am learning that, as a woman, it’s difficult to talk about your body as though it only belongs to you. I feel, somehow, responsible to all women when I talk about my body. I want to write about this more, but I’m afraid to."
I always saw it as a failure of mine to want my body to be different because I thought that meant I wasn’t loving myself enough. But you bring up a really great point that nourishing your body and keeping yourself fit is loving your body too. You can’t just say it, you have to prove it in your actions 💕
loved this article so much almost wrote love you so much but that was super creepy parasocial comment... anyways, your words always seem to find me when i need them the most. year of letting people know when their work is good?
This is fucking remarkable
Just read this quote in “Why Be Happy When You Can Be Normal?” By Jeanette Winterson that reminded me of this article: “I have noticed that doing the sensible thing is only a good idea when the decision is quite small. For the life-changing things, you must risk it.” The whole book is fantastic so far, as someone who takes you book recs often, I think you’d like it a lot Eliza!
Woah! This is everything! Would love to see you dive more into your relationship with your body and that balance of nourishment vs. control. The internet is a scary place, but even from reading this, I think there are people who are here for you and would get your message!
"It pays, in my opinion, to be fully insane in a big way, and relatively measured and calm in all your smaller rituals." This is such an amazing insight—definitely something I'm going to be thinking about for a while.
I love this so much, its so funny and honest!
Eliza, your words hit home for me in a way that feels almost too close for comfort. That rhythm of chaos and calm, the relentless cycles of falling and rising again—it’s the essence of living authentically. I’ve felt that same vulnerability, especially recently, as I wrote an article about my own story—a piece so raw and true that I haven’t found the courage to publish it yet.
What I did publish was Madiba’s Mountain on The Burn Blog, where I reflected on how to build out the year ahead, drawing from the lessons my late dog taught me about resilience and love. Like your skating metaphor, Madiba reminded me that progress isn’t a straight climb; it’s a series of loops and turns, each one bringing us closer to the essence of who we are.
Your bravery in sharing your cycles of striving, slipping, and returning stronger resonates deeply. It reminds me that vulnerability isn’t a weakness—it’s a bridge to connection. Publishing the truth, whether about ourselves or our journeys, isn’t just about being seen; it’s about giving others permission to embrace their own imperfections. Keep skating forward, Eliza. Burn on—we’re all better for it.